There are so many couples who would rather torture themselves by reliving hurts than being in love.
Conflicts are bound to arise in a marriage: some may be forgivable, others may not be so easy to forgive. But for offenses that can easily be forgiven, couples tend to drag the issue till it blows out of proportion, all because of ego and pride. Some move around like statues in the house and become flatmates. What if one partner dies while the conflict ensues? we hardly think about this possibility but it happens for real. The living partner begins to regret his/her decision not to reconcile their differences. No matter how much couples think they hate each other, they will never want their partner to die. It therefore begs the question, what then is the point?
Giving the silent treatment is one of the little ‘foxes’ that ruin marriages. It robs couples of all the fun, (not to mention the blessings), they can have with each other. A wife who is giving her husband the silent treatment, remembers something funny that occurred in the past. She wants to share with her husband but she suddenly remembers that she is not talking to him, and then keeps it to herself. if she had told him, they would have laughed over it, and probably remembered some more, but she robbed them of the fun they would have otherwise had.
Truthfully, it is hard to feel better when you are hurt by someone you love, but think of it, would you rather suffer when you can forgive and have fun? Keep in mind that little squabbles become big if not resolved at the right time. The things that keep a marriage are really not the big things like shopping, traveling abroad for the holidays and stuff like that. But little things like: sending a smile across while working in the house, a friendly pat on the shoulders as you pass by each other, a back rub, whispering sweet nothings, a walk in the park, a foot massage, a comforting hug, asking your spouse how his/her day went and listening attentively for their response, and so on.
The next time you have fallen out with your partner, just before you choose to remain in pain, ask yourself, ‘is it worth it?’
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